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Leigh Baumann

How to Beat Boredom and Live a Longer, Happier Life

“Many people live with assorted states of boredom – and yes, some parts of life (paying bills, loading the dishwasher) are quite dull. But giving in to living a life that feels tedious can ultimately be very destructive, says life coach and author, Lauren Zander. Boredom is a state of mind, she says – in her view, this truth is very, very powerful.  The Destructive Part People who are bored at work start showing up late, making mistakes and otherwise begin to act in ways that may eventually lead to the exit door (or at least, keep them stuck doing

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Leigh Baumann

The 7 Levels of Intimacy Book Discussion

In The 7 Levels of Intimacy, author Matthew Kelly defines intimacy as the mutual self-revelation that allows us to know and be known. He suggests that intimacy is the mutual sharing of the journey to fulfill our life purpose –  in other words, to become the-best-version-of-ourselves.  Kelly then defines the seven levels: 1. Cliches The first level of intimacy is impersonal. The right amount of small talk to make people feel comfortable Useful for day-to-day transactions and for making initial connections 2. Facts Saying something about yourself Lower level impersonal facts, e.g., current events, the weather, sports. Higher level impersonal facts, a discussion of the life of Abraham Lincoln or what causes a tsunami  Personal facts, i.e., facts about

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Becoming a Better Husband
Leigh Baumann

10 Questions that Can Change Your Relationship Today

There are often times that we, as a couple, need a bit of a reset – a time to come together and ensure that we are on the same page.  Sometimes, it may be over the holidays as the beginning of a new year is often a time for evaluation, assessing, and planning for the upcoming twelve months. We may choose to take a look at things around our anniversaries or even birthdays to analyze things like our health, our spiritual direction, our priorities, and set goals regarding what we would like to do differently.  Let’s not forget our relationships

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Connecting with Your Spouse
Leigh Baumann

The Powerful Tool of Kindness: Shared Joy

Adapted from article by Emily Esfahani Smith, The Atlantic Research has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved.  That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship. Contempt is the number one factor that tears couples apart. People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 50 percent

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Leigh Baumann

The Science of Happily Ever After

Adapted from article by Emily Esfahani Smith, The Atlantic In most marriages, levels of satisfaction drop dramatically within the first few years together.  But among couples who not only endure, but live happily together for years and years, the spirit of kindness and generosity guides them forward. Of all the people who get married, only three in ten remain in healthy, happy marriages, as psychologist Ty Tashiro points out in his book “The Science of Happily Ever After.” Social scientists first started studying marriages by observing them in action in the 1970s in response to a crisis: Married couples were

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