Dialogue Questions

Dialogue Questions Database

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What do I most need from my people when I/my people are trying to get through a difficult situation or period? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about the amount of time we spend on foreplay?
What is the most effective way I can communicate forgiveness?
What is our best quality as a couple? HDIFAT?
What percentage of my time do I spend thinking about you? HDIFAT?
What am I doing to promote Christian unity right where I am? HDIFAT?
What is it like to feel sexual anticipation? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I ask one of my people to forgive me? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I earned my first paycheck?
HDIF when I get a sincere thank you note?
HDIF when you neglected to share your true priorities or plans with me?
What are / were the dreams we had for our children? HDIFAT?
How does our support community enhance our relationship? HDIFAT?
How much privacy do I need in general? In our relationship? HDIFAT?
What is the most sensitive part of my body? HDIFAT?
When was I most aware of you today? HDIFAMA?
When I do not know something, what am I most likely to do: pretend I do, ask, or ignore it? HDIFAT?
How does our marriage reflect God's love? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my spiritual growth this Lent?
What do I like about being alone? HDIFAT?
HDIF recalling my first confession?
When was a time recently when I tried to know you better? HDMAMMF?
HDIF about reading more books and watching less TV?
HDIF when you expect more of me than I am capable of giving right now?
What do I seek in my relationships with my people? HDIFAT?
We hear and see values we do not agree with. HDIFAT?
HDIF when you apologize for me?
HDIF discussing our sex life?
What value do I see in changing the world? HDIFAT?
What am I most likely to do when I waste time? HDIFAT?
HDIF when no one notices something I put a lot of work into?
Can I safely handle firearms? HDIFAT?
How computer literate am I? HDIFAT?
HDIF about revealing my negative emotions?
What have I done to improve our relationship this month? HDIFAT?
HDIF when someone asks me to share?
What changes should I, or should we, make to keep from being disillusioned? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the time I spend with my family?
Is Jesus in control of my future? HDIFAT?
HDIF when people are not as loyal to me as I am to them?
How well do I accept others outside of Retrouvaille? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about the crucifixion of Jesus?
What aspect of my priesthood / religious life do I enjoy the most? HDIFAT?
HDIF about telling jokes?
What did I do today to make life less difficult for you? HDIFAT?
What risk am I willing to take to love you sexually the way you want to be loved? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when you use your dialogue letter to try to straighten me out?
HDIF when I try repeatedly to phone you and it is busy or there is no answer?
HDIF when I am not included in other people's activities?
How good our marriage is affects other marriages around us. HDIFAT?
I am most likely to criticize you about... HDIFAMA?
HDIF about the way we spent last weekend?
HDIF when you leave things up to me?
How do I deal with my physical temptations? HDIFAMA?
Can I entertain others by telling jokes and stories? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you have to make a sacrifice for us?
When your actions embarrass me, I feel _____. HDIFAT?
Very few burdens are heavy when everyone lifts. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I go ahead and make love even when I do not want to?
HDIF when I hear people discussing salaries?
HDIF about following a schedule and making to-do lists?
HDIF about eating out on holidays?
In what ways do I punish myself because of past mistakes? HDIFAT?
Obedience belongs to us - results belong to God. HDIFAT?
What is my reaction to seeing couples we know and love working on their relationships? HDIFAT?
Do I have a role to fulfill in couples relationships? HDIFAMA?
How do I face the world each morning? HDIFAT?
What was the best present I can remember getting? HDIFAT?
I need your help specifically in _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I tell you that I really believe in you?
HDIF when I am buying you a gift?
Who has more fun, adults or children? HDIFAT?
HDIF making a list of what I need to get done this weekend?
What was the most significant part of our Encounter / Retrouvaille weekend? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see Christmas displays in October?
HDIF letting people know what I can do well?
HDIF about we are the church?
HDIF about going out alone in the evening?
Do I avoid telling others the truth to avoid offending them? HDIFAT?
Who should I thank that I have not thanked? HDIFAT?
When I feel sad, angry, frustrated, etc. (pick one, or one of your own) what is the best thing you can do for me? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about relaxing with you near a lake, river or seashore?
What makes our house a home?
I feel most uncomfortable with you when _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF about my level of education?
HDIF when I have to take risks?
HDIF when I realize that I am not the person you think I am?
What are your special qualities that I see in our children? HDIFAT?
What have I done today to help others? HDIFAMA
HDIF about the time we spend together and the quality of that time?
How does our method of birth control affect our sexual relationship? HDIFAT?
How do our children?s activities affect our relationship? HDIFAT?
How well do I think I show my love to you? HDIF sharing this with you?
I am most vulnerable when... HDIF sharing this with you?
Pick a current problem. What expectation of mine was unmet? HDIFAT?
How are we behaving like married singles? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you call me by my pet name?
The priest or minister that has most helped me to experience God's love is (or was) _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF about how active I am in our children's sports or other activities?
On a scale of 1-10, I would rate my services/masses/etc. a... How could it improve? HDIFAMA?
What is my happiest memory of the past year? HDIFAT?
What comfort do I still remember from someone who has passed away? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I have been angry with you?
HDIF when we are inspired by another couples' relationship?
Which of us comes to decisions more quickly? HDIFAT?
HDIF during the candlelight reading or singing of the Exultet on the Easter vigil?
HDIF when you respond quickly to my requests?
HDIF when we would like to do something but can?t afford it?
In company, do I initiate conversation or wait to be approached? HDIFAT?
What could I do to help you understand me better? HDIFAMA?
I believe I have failed at _____. HDIFAT?
Can I laugh at myself? HDIFAT?
HDIF sharing the holidays with you?
When have I felt alone this fall? HDIFAT?
HDIF about making a monetary sacrifice so that others can experience the weekend?
What are my family's expectations of us? HDIFAT?
I still have these doubts about us: _____. HDIFAT?
When was a time you touched my life? HDIFAT?
HDIF about members of our extended family?
What am I most thankful for? HDIFAT?
What fear to I keep from you? HDIFAT?
How can we do something as a family toward world peace? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my relationship with our children?
What qualities do I look for in a friend? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when I realize I have done something thoughtless that hurt someone?
How have we affected other couples' marriages? HDIFAT?
Is there a decision that I have made recently that I perceive my people have disagreed with? HDIFAT?
How can I make Thanksgiving more meaningful? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I visit people in the hospital?
When was the last time we really got silly together? HDIFAT?
When I consider the redemptive power of Jesus Christ in your life, HDIF about your past?
What compliment do I most like to receive about me? HDIFAT?
HDIF about Washington politics?
Life is what happens while we are making other plans. HDIFAT?
HDIF when we take down Christmas decorations?
HDIF when it is time to file income tax forms?
What is my attitude toward my work? HDIFAT?
In times of trouble, where do I look first for solace, you or God? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when you propose a new sexual experience?
HDIF when I laugh with you?
If possible, I would like to reclaim these things I gave up for you: _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF about how well I love our children?
Are we free to ask our friends for help anytime we have a problem? HDIFAMA?
How do I feel when I make a promise to do something, but need to break it because of something even more important? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF when you undress in front of me?
HDIF when I see the beauty of God's creation? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say, I cannot do anything to please you?
How do I deal with my physical temptations? HDIFAT?
Where do I believe God has called me in ministry? HDIFAMA?
How did you fulfill the longings in my heart when I first met you? HDIFAT?
A time I felt closest to my people was... How do I feel recalling this?
With what aspect of our relationship am I most comfortable? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you neglected to share your true priorities or plans with me?
HDIF about the commercialism connected with Christmas?
What would be the perfect escape weekend? HDIFAT?
What do I need to do to make myself sexually responsive to you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I think about some of the crazy things we did for each other?
When am I least open to listen to you in the area of superiority? HDIFAT?
What expectations of myself do I have? Do I live up to them, or not? HDIFAT?
How do I feel about our home? Describe in loving detail.
What are my feelings when my family's aging and health related problems become our concern? HDIFTYT?
Do I believe it is important to take a yearly family vacation? HDIFAT?
HDIF about us having the power to heal each other?
What things do I put first? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say no to me?
Do we make the time to pray with our friends? HDIFAMA?
Does our ability to have children make a difference in our lovemaking? HDIFAT?
In what areas do I most need your help? HDIFAT?
What is it about our sexual relationship that I find most enjoyable? HDIFAT?
When I talk with deeply religious people, I feel _____. HDIFAT?
What do I like best about you in the area of money? HDIFAT?
My greatest satisfaction in our sexual relationship is _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF about hugging people we do not know all that well?
When am I least open to listen to you in the area of death? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I think of praying with you?
Since dialogue, am I more comfortable talking about sex and death with other people? HDIFAT?
What effect does making love to you have on me? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the little things in our marriage relationship?
How do I feel when I need a hug? Describe in loving detail.
What do I need to hear from you that would allow me to be more open? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we receive a phone call from an old friend we have not talked to in a long time?
How much of a couple do I really want to be, and what am I willing to change to be that couple? HDMAMMF?
No matter how often I am right, I will sometimes be dead wrong. HDIFAT?
What did I most look forward to today? HDIFAT?
What dialogue has meant the most to me? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I have difficulty remembering someone's name?
How do I feel about us being important to the church and the world? HDIF sharing this with you?
HDIF about the level of our spending on Christmas gifts?
You are my mirror. HDIFAT?
How do I feel when I need a hug? Describe in loving detail.
If we doubled our present income, would we be any happier? HDIFAT?
HDIF when a person answers the phone with enthusiasm and energy?
What conditions do I put on my love for you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I say good-bye to you at the airport?
If I had the power, how would I redesign our relationship? HDIFAT?
What are my expectations for our journey into this New Year? HDIFAT?
What specifically can I do this week to create a little more romance? HDIFAMA?
What is my most compulsive habit? HDIFAT?
HDIF when good friends of mine move away?
HDIF when you want sex and I do not?
How would I feel about the idea of having to spend Christmas without you? Describe in loving detail.
What practical steps could we take to talk more about us? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the responsibility we have to other married couples?
How and why did we go back to dialoguing regularly? HDIFAT?
When I?m lonely, I think of _________ . HDMAMMF?
What do I find most difficult to talk about because of my mask? HDIFTYT?
HDIF when I look at my naked body?
What lifetime dream am I still trying to realize? HDIFAT?
What mask do I wear in the area of prayer? HDIFAT?
When I am given things to do, am I more likely to accept them or complain about them? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you make unreasonable demands on me?
We have activities, jobs and careers. What about us? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you help me discover a new good quality?
What do I hope to gain in the area of God and our faith? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I have a deadline?
HDIF when our routines separate us?
HDIF when I reveal an emotion / feeling that is difficult to share with you?
What activity helps me grow as a Christian?
How important is marriage to me? HDIFAT?
In the area of sex what feeling do I find most difficult to share with you? Describe feelings in loving detail.
What barrier do I have the hardest time overcoming in order to love you? HDIF sharing this with you?
HDIF when people do little things to tease, annoy or insult me?
HDIF when I give you a lift to work?
Am I sometimes guilty of empty or insincere affirmation? HDIFAMA?
What is most appealing to me about being married? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when I try to understand what is bothering me?
HDIF about our having some time alone, away from each other?
When was the last time I left you a love note? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you become violently angry with me?
When was the last time we had an ice cream social type of evening together? HDIFAT?
How do you respond to my failures? HDIFAT?
HDIF being around people who name-drop?
HDIF when stock market trends reduce the value of our investments?
What have I learned about myself through the challenges I have faced? HDIFAT?
HDIF when a member of our family compliments me?
How has God blessed me today? HDIFAT?
What can we do to renew our parish or church? HDIFAT?
What part does God play in our sexual communication? HDIFAT?
How many times have I been stopped by the police? HDIFAT?
How do I feel about the way our marriage/my ministry influences those around us? Describe in loving detail.
Do I consider myself emotional or detached? HDIFAT?
My strongest emotion / feeling about you today was _____.
How would I react if someone called me a person of real feeling? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you apologize to me?
How do I fail to listen to you when I am disillusioned? HDIFAT?
Is thoughtfulness an important aspect of our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I leave angry words unspoken?
If I could travel anywhere in the world, where would I go, and why? HDIFAT?
What fears do I have that detract from my experience of today? HDIFAT?
What potentials have you helped me develop? HDMAMMF?
Would people say I am thick-skinned? HDIFAT?
HDIF about winter weather?
How do you respond to your failures? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you seem annoyed with me?
Sometimes I want to escape and be by myself. HDIFAT?
What do I think about our couple spirituality? HDIFAT?
HDIF when our child is sick?
What feelings do I experience when I share with you? HDMAMMF?
What do I fear about growing old? HDIFAT?
HDIF about learning another language?
In what area do I trust my people the least? (this does not say _NOT_ trust my people, just the least) HDIFAMA?"
Has our relationship grown since last Valentine's Day? HDIFAT?
How can I tell when you are angry? HDIFAT?
What about our lives would I like to change? HDIF telling you this?
What is my purpose in life? HDIFAT?
How do I feel about the coming end of the year and new year?
How can I be more gentle with myself? HDIFAT?
HDIF about wearing silk underwear?
HDIF about my experiences in the church?
Which holiday do I like best? HDIFAT?
What is my reaction to seeing couples we know and love working on their relationships? HDIFAT?
Are we as close to each other as we were just after our Retrouvaille weekend? HDIFAMA?
How am I different since we experienced the weekend and follow-up? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we receive communion together?
What is my favorite memory of our wedding day? HDIFAT?
What do I like best about you in the area of God and our faith? HDIFAT?
Why do I want to dialogue in the area of death? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see the stress building up in you?
HDIF about encouraging our older children to take a part-time job?
How do I feel when I hear couples talking about their sexual relationship? Describe in loving detaiL.
HDIF about supporting our Encounter / Retrouvaille community?
How is our sex life? If I think it is unsatisfactory, how can I make it better? HDIFAT?
Am I afraid that my parent's health problems (Alzheimer's, osteoporosis, heart disease) will eventually manifest in me as I age? HDIFTYT?
Have I ever felt the power of the Holy Spirit?
HDIF realizing my attitudes and judgments have caused you pain?
In what ways do I take you for granted? HDIFAT?
HDIF when a car pulls in front of me when I am stopped in traffic?
In what area do I most need my people's help in living my sacrament / calling? HDIFAT?
HDIF about our materialistic lifestyle?
HDIF when I am telling you about my successes?
HDIF about winning? Do I brag about it?
What happened today that made me feel sad? HDIFAT?
What became of the good resolutions I have made in the past? HDIFAT?
Can I read maps? HDIFAT?
Describe a time when I felt confident. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see our marriage influencing other people around us?
HDIF when I want to postpone our dialogue?
How is my father / mother still influencing my life? HDIFAT?
When was the last time we called our special friends just to tell them we love them? HDIFAT?
Can I find the North Star at night? HDIFAT?
What is the biggest confidence you give to me? HDIFAT?
HDIF about family planning?
HDIF about working on a family budget?
HDIF when you become violently angry with me?
HDIF about us today?
HDIF about Easter?
Our sexual relationship is not what it could be. HDIFAT?
If I had three wishes, I would wish for _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF about our fertility?
How do I feel about the blessings and gifts God has given me? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF after we dialogue?
How do I respond to overtures of friendship from someone I have already decided to reject? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you act on your emotions / feelings, content to let the chips fall where they may?
When recently did you do something that made me feel special? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the room we occupied while we experienced the weekend?
What way have I shown my love to our daughter / son lately? HDIFAT?
What have I done today to help others? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we receive secret gifts and notes from a couple who supports us?
Our relationship to my family is _____. HDIFAT?
What do I think is fun for you? HDIFAT?
What proof is there in our life that dialogue is important to our relationship? HDIFAT?
What would I say most represents a symbol of our loving relationship? HDIFAT?
What romantic thing would I like you to do for me? HDIF telling you this?
When others expect a lot from me, I feel ______ and tend to ______ . HDTMMF?
HDIF about getting other people's advice for solving our problems?
HDIF when I see a characteristic of yours in one of our children?
What is my vision of the Church? HDIFAT?
What is our relationship with God, today? HDMAMMF?
In times of trouble, where do I look first for help, you or God? HDIFAMA?
If I could change my name, what would I change it to? HDIFAT?
How does stress affect my self-image? HDIFAT?
How do I behave when my need for belonging is not met? HDIFAT?
Where do we go to be lifted up as a couple? HDIFAT?
How would I describe you to our children after your death? HDIFAT?
What has dialog taught me about myself? HDIFT?
HDIF about myself today? Does that affect how I feel about you?
What kind of things frustrate me? HDIF when it happens?
How have I freed myself up in our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I do something that I think pleases God?
How does our financial situation affect our intimacy? HDIFAT?
As a child, who was I closest too, and why? HDIF sharing this with you?
Which of my strengths do I need to develop? HDIFAT?
What have I done to show Christ my love for Him? HDIFAT?
Is there anything you have done that I have not forgiven you for? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you help me back up to my feet?
How do I feel when I realize that I am not who you thought me to be? Describe in loving detail.
What does being open mean to me? HDIFAT?
What can I do to make it easier for my people to trust me with themselves? HDIFAMA?
How does my / your fear of pregnancy affect us? HDIFAT?
What do we have to offer the world together, that I do not offer alone? HDIFAT?
HDIF about your smile?
HDIF about God?
What does my conduct say about my convictions? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my spirituality?
Which of us comes to decisions more quickly? HDIFAT?
What specialness do I see in our family? HDIFAT?
How do I react when people sing Happy Birthday to me in public? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you compliment me?
I forgot to buy you a card. HDIFAT?
What was the most tender moment we shared together this week? HDIFAT?
What is most threatening to my spiritual growth right now? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I exceed my limits, undertaking more than I can handle?
HDIF when I see children praying?
HDIF about our diet or food choices at this time?
What difficulties are me most likely to experience when trying to make a hard decision? HDIFAMA?
Can I ride a skateboard? A unicycle? HDIFAT?
Is it easy for me to accept help when I need it? HDIFAT?
Are there any hurts between us that need to be healed of before our relationship can continue to grow? HDIFAMA?
What can you do better than a Swiss Army Knife? HDIFAT?
How does my parents' marriage affect my behavior toward you? HDIFAT?
HDIF just before mass or church? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I have to drive the car in dangerous weather?
When do I feel the most romantic? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the size of our family?
With our children, am I more likely to be strict or permissive? HDIFAT?
HDIF telling you something I know you do not want to hear?
HDIF when I am caught staring at someone?
Is our relationship alive and visible to other people? HDIFAT?
How will my life change when our children are out on their own? HDIFAT?
What sacrifices am I willing to make to be more romantic with you? HDIFAT?
God already knows my heart. HDIFAT?
Could our home be more Christ-centered? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I know you are proud of me?
Thoughts of retirement days bring emotions / feelings of _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF in my bathing suit?
What can I do to help you experience more of God?s Love? DYFID.
How does our relationship give witness to the Lord? HDIFAT?
I think our greatest strength as a couple is _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see thanks shining in your eyes?
HDIF when you do not like the dialog question I have selected?
I experience rejection most when _____. HDIFAT?
What does the season of Lent mean to me? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I lose an argument?
HDIF when you laugh at my jokes?
What has been the greatest area of growth in our sexual relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am running errands?
What do I need to hear you talk about in our sexual relationship? HDIFAT?
What phobias do you have? HDIFAT?
How do I feel when someone interrupts me while I am talking to you? Describe in loving detail.
How do we usually handle conflict in our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF sleeping with you at my in-laws' house?
Considering what I expect of myself and what I expect of others: Is this a double standard? HDIFAT?
What is my favorite way of lovemaking? HDIFAT?
What special moment of the past holiday season will I always remember? HDIFAT?
God gave us two ears and one mouth. Do I listen twice as much as I speak? HDIFAT?
HDIF when someone in our family helps me?
What effect did dialogue have on us during the follow-up period? HDIFAT?
What makes it hardest for you to live with me? HDIFAT?
How would I feel if I fed some stranger's expired parking meter? HDIFAT?
How can we, as a couple, meet Jesus' challenge to follow Him? HDIFAT?
What part does God play in our sexual communication! HDIFAT?
Our courtship can continue in some form for all our married lives. HDIFAT?
I am most confident when... HDIFAMA?
HDIF after I have forgiven you?
How would I feel about changing sexes for one day? HDIFAT?
What is my strongest emotion / feeling about money? HDIFAT?
HDIF about getting other people?s advice for solving our problems?
What romantic things do I remember most from our dating or early marriage? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see myself in photographs?
God is my dialogue partner. HDIFAT?
HDIF when we make love?
HDIF when I stop doing something I want to do because other people are watching?
You cannot control the love and fidelity of another person. HDIFAT?
What holiday is my favorite? Why? HDIFAT?
How does _____ (name a priest or minister) help us to experience God's love for us? HDIFAT?
What did I do to make my parents proud of me? HDIFAT?
When you bring up a topic for discussion, HDIF?
HDIF about spending meaningful time with our children?
HDIF about my ability to speak to you freely about our sexual relationship?
How do I feel when others think they don't need to dialogue? Describe the feeling in loving detail.
What weeds are growing in my life? HDIFAT?
What kind of Christmas present did I get? HDIFAT?
How could we support the marriages of our friends? HDIFAT?
Why did I take my vows? Why do I keep my vows? HDIFAT?
HDIF about shopping in general?
HDIF about making love when we have a time limit?
How do I behave when I experience your total acceptance of me? HDIFAT?
What expectations do I have of you? Are my expectations being met? HDIF sharing this with you?
Is it more important to see possibilities or adjust to facts? HDIFAT?
What specifically can I do this week to create a little more romance? HDIFAT?
What does peace mean to me? HDIFAMA?
How does my mask interfere with my celebrating mass/worship service/etc.? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I spend money on gifts?
What do I think is missing in our experience of lovemaking? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I need to relax but do not?
HDIF when you insult or belittle one of my ideas?
When was the last time we looked at our wedding album together? HDIFAT?
What was our closest moment as a family this month? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I pray, Our Father ... ?
HDIF when we go to mass or church together?
What have I done to make you number one today? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say, I can never understand you?
HDIF when I reveal my innermost emotions / feelings to you?
What dreams do I have for this year? Are they realistic? HDIFAT?
How did the absence of dialogue affect our communication and closeness? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I sense you are attracted by other men / women?
HDIF when people change the rules?
How much am I in control of our relationship? HDIFAT?
How do I react to practical jokes? HDIFAT?
How well do I do trusting God to answer my needs? HDIFAT?
HDIF about giving from our substance?
Does your family have a reunion? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we sign our Christmas cards?
Who can we go to when we need to be lifted up? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I consider that I am responsible for my attitude, good or bad?
What do I like least about myself in the area of superiority? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the people who prayed for us as we experienced the weekend?
Our dog's barking is going to disturb the neighbors. HDIFAT?
HDIF when you dump on me?
I find it difficult to listen to you when... HDIFAMA?
Besides our bed, where would I most like to make love to you? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when you are gentle with me?
HDIF when someone leaves a job unfinished?
HDIF when I see our children take new responsibilities?
What did I not try because I was afraid of failing? HDIFAT?
I am most vulnerable when... HDIFAMA?
In times of trouble, where do I look first for comfort, you or God? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when our children challenge us?
What do I need to thank God for that I have not? HDIFAT?
What do I have to be most thankful for? HDIFAT?
HDIF holding hands during mass or church?
Risking builds confidence. Confidence builds trust. HDIFAT?
In what areas or ways do I compete against you? HDIFAT?
What is the happiest memory I have of this Christmas? HDIFAT?
HDIF after I have forgiven one of my people?
Is there anything that I do that causes me to compromise my beliefs? HDIFAT?
I am a better person because of _____. HDIFAT?
How do I feel when I would like to say no, but don't think I can? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF about traveling on the train?
How well do I use the talents given to me by God? HDIFAMA?
How do I act when my need for autonomy, self-worth, love, or belonging (agree on one) is not being met? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when you heal me?
How much sleep do I need? HDIFAT?
What feeling is most likely to be the source of my anger? Describe the feeling in loving detail.
How do I usually handle conflict with my people? HDIFAMA?
How do I see myself through your eyes today? HDIFAT?
HDIF about visiting our distant relatives?
What causes the most friction between my people and me? HDIFAT?
HDIF when someone reminds me of all the favors they have done for me?
The house is a mess. HDIFAT?
Do I think I spend enough time with my people or is the time I spend with them quality time? HDIFAMA?
How do I feel when someone interrupts me while I am talking to one of my people? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF knowing this could be your last day to live?
What kept me from making the most of this past weekend? HDIFAT?
HDIF about how we use our money?
TESTING - THIS USED TO BE CATEGORY DEATH. What do I hope to gain in the area of death? HDIFAT?
How important is physical affection to me? HDIFAT?
What do I hope to gain in the area of money? HDIFAT?
What do I see as your best quality? HDIFAT?
What do I judge to be my greatest weakness? HDIFAT?
HDIF about laughter during lovemaking?
How is our family relationship similar to the Holy Family? HDIFAT?
What do I think about my ability to accept my people's love for me? HDIFAMA?
You cannot compromise another person's right to be themselves. HDIFAT?
How can I stop hiding my emotions? HDIFAT?
Which of life's pleasures do I cherish most? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I make the decision to love and have sex when I do not want to?
How do I feel about the current political atmosphere in my/our country? DILD.
HDIF when you say, Do you always have to have the last word?
HDIF when you serve me breakfast in bed?
When you are hurt, I would appreciate it if you would _____. HDIFAT?
We can do no great things, only small things with great love. (Mother Teresa) HDIFAT?
How does the image I try to project affect our dialogue? HDIFAT?
If I could have one wish, what would it be and why? How do I feel telling you this?
How do I feel when I say to you, 'Please forgive me. I was wrong.' Describe in loving detail.
What little kindness did I do today to spread love around? HDIFAT?
Can I recite anything from memory? HDIFAT?
HDIF looking other people in the eye?
How do I feel when someone asks me/us, 'How is your dialogue?' Describe in loving detail.
How do I feel when we have to work together on a project? Describe in loving detail.
What could I do to help myself understand God better? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about the way we use our financial resources?
HDIF taking time to get to know myself better?
What values of the church do I want to pass on to our children? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I consider that I am responsible for every area of my life?
What part of the day would I most like to share with my people? HDIFAT?
How do you set me free? HDIFAT?
How are we responding to Jesus' call to be fishers of men? HDIFAT?
What relationship(s) do I need to heal? HDIFAT?
What expectations do I have for Valentine's day? HDIFA sharing this with you?
When do I have time for private prayer? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my family's aging and health-related problems?
How do I feel when someone points out my failure or weakness in front of others? DILD.
Where would I like to go that I have never been? HDIF about going there with you?
Is God in my heart, or just in my mind? HDIFAT?
What mask (personality style) do I wear in the area of death? HDIFAT?
What good quality do you see in me that I doubt the most? HDIFAT?
When I have to do things according to a fixed schedule, I feel _____. HDIFAT?
How do I behave when my need for autonomy is not being met? HDIFAT?
When I want you to listen to me, do I also want you to agree with me? HDTMMF?
How do I see God reflected through our favorite priest or minister? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we are not communicating?
How can I be more open to those around me? HDIFAT?
How do I feel when my priorities and actions are inconsistent with each other? HDMAMMF?
What have I dreamed of doing for a long time? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am too excited to sleep?
What are my thoughts about dialoguing regularly? HDIFAT?
When confronted with a problem, am I more likely to become a better person or a bitter person? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I try holding my temper?
HDIF about hiring help with housework?
When I pray, do I listen? HDIFAT?
At this time, what concerns me the most about our children? HDIFAT?
I just realize the driver of the car has been drinking. HDIFAT?
I love you because _____. HDIFAT?
I cannot blame you for how I feel. HDIFAT?
What part of the Passion is most significant to me? HDIFAT?
What friend(s) of yours would I rather not be around? Why? HDIF sharing this with you?
If I could live anywhere, where would it be? HDIFAT?
HDIF when the weather forecast is wrong?
Do we have a role to fulfill in other couples' relationships? HDIFAMA?
How do I respond to the Lord's call? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I was first learning how to ride a bicycle?
When meeting difficulties, am I more likely to alter them or to alter myself? HDIFAT?
What do I like best about myself in the area of our friends? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am not getting through to you?
What actions, things or behaviors are life-giving to me? HDIFAT?
What would I tell Jesus about you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we hear our song?
HDIF when I think about making a will?
Why did I commit to you in the first place? HDIFAT?
HDIF about discussing our sex life?
You cannot hold on to another person out of fear of loss. HDIFAT?
On a scale of 1-10, I would rate the health of our marriage a... HDIFSTWY?
HDIF about watching TV in our bedroom?
How would I like to be romanced by you? HDIFAT?
How well do I forgive me people when they ask for it? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see someone parked illegally in a handicapped space?
What am I most disappointed with in our relationship? HDIFAT?
When a couple we know gets divorced, I feel _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I realize I have hurt you?
How well do I do trusting God to answer my needs? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF about receiving the Eucharist with you?
HDIF after I have had a fight with one of my people?
HDIF when an old friend of mine wants to spend time with me?
What do I see as my people's strengths? HDIFAT?
Our marriage is a sign of Christ's Love. How do I think others experienced our sign today? HDTMMF?
If I judge we are not heading in the right direction, what can I do to change it? HDMAMMF?
In what areas do I tiptoe around you? HDIFAT?
What power do I hold over my people that may be a barrier to me growing closer to them? HDIFAT?
When am I least open to listen to you in the area of child raising? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I try to convince you of something and you cannot accept it?
HDIF about family dialogue?
If there were dreams to sell, what would I buy? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say YES but mean NO?
When was the last time I said Thank You to you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when stock market trends increase the value of our investments?
How does my self-image keep me from being open to you? HDIFAT?
When your actions embarrass me, I feel _____. HDIFAT?
Do I believe my life, or parts of it, are predestined? HDIFAT?
At this time of my life, what I need most from you is _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I agree to do it your way?
Where in my relationship with God do I experience stress? HDIFAT?
What do I think about my ability as your lover? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about us being a spiritual couple?
HDIF about having to make a decision immediately?
Life is beautiful when shared with you. HDIFAT?
HDIF about paying our taxes?
HDIF about Right to Life issues?
HDIF when I am talking to you and you do not seem to be listening?
HDIF when I have to ask you for money?
What is the most sentimental possession I have? HDIFAT?
HDIF when the phone rings and they ask for you?
HDIF when you do not say you are sorry or ask forgiveness?
What is my biggest barrier to forgiving you when I feel hurt? HDIFAT?
Can I do math in my head or do I need a calculator? HDIFAT?
Is there anything about my job that I avoid discussing with you? HDIFAT?
When someone criticizes me, do I give it right back to them? HDIFAT?
How well do I listen to my people when they talk about finances,? Do I truly listen to them, or do I just hear them? Are there behaviors that get in the way of me listening to them in this area? HDIFAMA?
What is my dream for Encounter / Retrouvaille? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the way I lived today?
What do I think you most need from me right now? HDIFAT?
Our decisions are frequently _____. HDIFAT?
In what situation am I most likely to use exaggeration? HDIFAMA?
How can I help you discover ways or options to satisfy your needs? HDIFAT?
I find it useless to listen to you when _____. HDIFAT?
How can we reach out to a single-parent family? HDIFAT?
Is control a problem in our relationship? HDIFAT?
What were the most important aspects of our wedding ceremony to me? HDIFAT?
How do I feel when we work together to get a tough job done in a short time? DILD.
How do we experience unity? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we want to make love and cannot?
In what area do we have hurt in our relationship? HDIFAT?
How was my name chosen? HDIFAT?
Is my attitude positive or negative? HDIFAT?
How has my love for my people changed since my taking vows/ordination, or weekend? HDIFAMA?
When do I get impatient with you? HDIFAT?
HDIF about donations to charity?
What do I expect of God? HDIFAT?
If God is for us, who could be against us? HDTMMF?
Whom do we look up to as a couple? HDIFAT?
When was the last time I gave you flowers? HDIFAT?
What is the message of Lent for me? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we are asked to do something, and I say yes when you would rather say no?
If our house were on fire, what one object would I most want to save? HDIFAT?
What tricks do I use to get my way? HDIFAT?
Our dialogue is a prayer to our Father. HDIFAT?
HDIF about your relationship with my family?
What need of mine am I most aware of as needing to be nourished? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about having a costume party?
God wants our sexual relationship to be good. HDIFAT?
What do I like least about you in the area of God and our faith? HDIFAT?
Whom do we share our joys with? HDIFAT?
What do I like best about you in the area of possessions? HDIFAT?
How do I feel about the last time we made love? Describe in loving detail.
How do my childhood dreams of growing up compare to what I am now? HDIFAT?
The Bible is full of God's dialogue letters to us. HDIFAT?
HDIF when your family makes demands on us?
What would I like to do in the next month if I knew I had only one month to live? HDMAMMF?
HDIF about us moving?
Where did I put dialogue on my list of priorities this week? HDIFAT?
It is difficult to write about feelings. HDTMMF?
HDIF when you say, Why do you never listen to me?
Where do I stand in my faith? HDIFAT?
How do I feel about us today? Describe in loving detail.
When do I feel closest to you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you describe an emotion / feeling to me in a way I cannot relate to?
What do I need from you, my partner, to help me develop my potential? HDMAMMF?
HDIF when we cry after watching a movie together?
Where does our couple-centered attitude show the most? HDIFAT?
Which one of us worries more about money? HDIFAT?
How do I feel when someone asks me, 'How is your dialogue?' Describe in detail.
What is my biggest barrier to forgiving one of my people when I feel hurt? HDIFAMA?
How do I feel about discussing politics with someone who's views differ from mine? Describe in loving detail.
What can I do to make it easier for you to confide in me? HDIFAT?
HDIF recalling the birth of our children?
HDIF hugging our son or daughter after I have disciplined them?
HDIF when I sympathize with you while you are sick?
HDIF when I discover there is almost no gas left in the tank?
HDIF immediately after we make love?
HDIF about flying?
HDIF about the dialogue letters we have written?
Have any of my dreams come true? HDIFAT?
I must be true to _____. Can I be true to this and still be with you? HDIFAT?
In the area of prayer what feeling do I find most difficult to share with you? DILD.
HDIF when I try to be punctual for your sake?
HDIF when you say, I can do whatever I like?
What mask (personality style) do I wear in the area of sex? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my first funeral?
HDIF about your tears?
What gifts has God blessed me with? HDIFAT?
When do I feel least recognized as a capable person?
HDIF when other people see our togetherness?
What are my feelings about keeping the Dream alive?
HDIF when I think of one of our children dying?
HDIF about splitting of daily chores?
I smiled today when I thought about. . . . HDIFAMA?
HDIF when we pray together?
What distracts me when I try to listen to you? HDIFAT?
How much charity work do I do? HDIFAT?
What would I like to accomplish the season of Lent?
Dialogue questions are sometimes silly. HDIFAT?
What would I do if I had a magic wand that could grant any wish? HDIFAT?
When was the last time I cried? HDIFAT?
What is most likely to distract me when I am trying to listen to you? HDIFAT?
What about my relationship with God can be improved? HDIFAT?
What strengths do I have because of the mask I wear? HDIFAMA?
HDIF when my plans run off the track?
HDIF being around people who have a compulsive need to please other people?
How important do I think romance is in our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we take a drive together to see the beautiful fall foliage?
HDIF when I leave civilization for natural surroundings?
HDIF about leftovers?
What is my fondest memory of last year? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say, What is your problem?
Would I have been able to stay at the Garden of Gethsemane knowing what was going to happen? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am following a schedule? When I am free of schedules?
What disappointments have I kept to myself? HDIFAT?
Do I run more on a schedule, or just take things as they come? HDMAMMF?
How could I make saying grace more meaningful? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I see washing of the feet on Holy Thursday?
HDIF when I say no to you in sex?
When do we take down the Christmas decorations? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you say, I told you so?
I have little patience for _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF knowing that I cannot fill your needs for you?
What are my hopes and expectations for the summer? HDIFAT?
Is it easy or difficult for me to apologize? HDIFAT?
What is my favorite time of year, and why? HDTMMF?
HDIF when I consider that pain and disappointment are just part of life?
HDIF when our marriage has a positive influence on our family and friends?
What is my dream for a perfect romantic evening? HDIFAT?
Does our home reflect our values? HDIFAT?
HDIF about looking out for Christ's coming?
What do we do to help the nearby poor? HDIFAT?
Does out family have any traditional things that we do? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you give me your undivided attention?
In lovemaking you are a gift of God to me. HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am able to tell you what bugs me?
How does failure affect my self-image? HDIFAT?
Why do I want to dialogue in the area of child raising ? HDIFAT?
What kind of listener was I before we experienced the weekend? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I nag you?
Full-grown oaks are not produced in three years; neither are servants of God.' - Douglas Rumford How do I feel about my service to God? (Am I impatient, dissatisfied, ambivalent, etc.) Describe in loving detail.
HDIF about the way our marriage reflected God's love in our world today?
When did I last put your needs before mine? HDIFAT?
I am happy to be alive today because _____. HDIFAT?
When was the last time we played with our children and just had fun? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you hold my hand going to communion?
HDIF about watching a love story on TV or at the movies?
HDIF when you want some time alone?
When am I most likely to lie to others? HDIFAT?
What regrets do I have about someone who has died? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we get a call that our child is sick?
What would I change about the way I was raised? HDIFAT?
Take and eat, this is my body. HDIFAT?
How do I define love? HDIFAT?
HDIF about participating in league activities (softball, bowling) with you?
Am I doing better accepting you as you are? DYFILD.
Is Jesus in control of our prayer life? HDIFAT?
What does it mean when I do not pick up after myself? HDIFAT?
What is my gift to God today? HDIFAT?
Do I consider myself a good listener? HDIFAT?
If I could get away with it, would I break the rules? HDIFAT?
How do I feel when I judge you are better than me at something that I take pride in my ability to do? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF about how we use our financial resources?
HDIF when I say good things about you to other people?
HDIF about my prayer life?
Other than clothing, do I have things I consider to be only mine? HDIFAT?
What is the biggest challenge facing us this week? HDIFAT?
What are some of the family incidents our children will always remember? HDIFAT?
If I could change your name, what would I change it to? HDIFAT?
I am lucky to be married to you. HDIFAT?
If I were to lose you, what about you would I miss the most? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am with good friends?
If one of our children left for the seminary today, how would I feel? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I do some household or yard chore without being reminded to do it?
Can I think of an event that has made a difference in my life? HDIFAT?
HDIF about our vacation?
What illness do you fear most for yourself? HDIFAT?
What quote do I want on my tombstone? HDIFAT?
What do I value least about our lifestyle? HDIFAT?
I judge I cry... (freely, rarely, easily, etc.) What is _most_ likely to result in me crying? HDIFAMA?
What do I think about when I cannot fall asleep? HDIFAT?
HDIF when other people tell me that they love me?
HDIF about trying different parishes / churches?
I hate people who _____. HDIFAT?
How have I been separate from you lately? HDIFAT?
Where do I go to be lifted up as a priest or minister?
You are worth more than you are paid. HDIFAT?
HDIF about planning for our future?
What am I most obsessive about? HDIFAT?
I find it difficult to listen to you when _____. HDIFAT?
Do I believe we should share household tasks? HDIFAT?
HDIF when work makes demands of me that seem unfair?
HDIF about the way we handle money?
HDIF about trusting God for all our needs?
What are some of the most tranquil times we spend together? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you believe me instead of the rumors?
Do I give you my full attention when we make love, or do I get distracted by other things? HDIFAMA?
HDIF about the life we provided for our children?
HDIF when I have to deal with low-level, nitty-gritty details?
HDIF when I lose a cherished or prized possession?
How do I feel when I see you suffering? Describe in loving detail.
How important is the Eucharist to me? HDIFAT?
HDIF about our children's involvement in sports or physical education?
What is my favorite thing to do that does not cost money? HDIFAT?
HDIF as the winning lottery numbers are being drawn?
What piece of music is especially meaningful to me? HDIFAT?
What feelings do I have about selecting dialogue questions that appear difficult? HDIF sharing this with you?
HDIF when I have done all that I can do and must wait for results?
HDIF when I am away from my people?
What do you criticize about me? HDIFAT?
Is there enough laughter and relaxation in our relationship? HDIFAT?
Can I identify with romantic couples? HDIFAT?
HDIF putting up Christmas decorations?
HDIF about my office dress code?
How have our in-laws contributed positive/negative change to our family? HDIFAT?
What gift of myself have I given to my people today? HDIFAT?
HDIF if someone else read my notebook?
What is my biggest pet peeve? HDIFAT?
I am most likely to use sarcasm when _____. HDIFAT?
HDIF when someone asks me to do something I do not want to do?
HDIF when I am digging up the past?
What is my favorite room of the house and why? HDIFAT?
What am I willing to do to make our dialogue more regular? HDIFAT?
HDIF knowing today could be my last day to live?
Do I accept my mistakes and learn from them? HDIFAT?
What one possession do I want most and cannot have? HDIFAT?
I am God's hands and feet. HDIFAT?
We are the church seven days a week, not only on Sunday. HDIFAT?
Is family planning my job, your job, or ours? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we need to re-establish our budget priorities?
HDIF when I consider that we are special to Our Father?
Do I ever change what I write or say to avoid conflict or argument? Why? HDIFAMA?
Do I ever change what I write or say to avoid conflict or argument? Why? HDIFAMA?
What is the difference between hearing you and listening to you? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my responsibility or irresponsibility in managing our finances?
What are a few things I like to do with our family? HDIFAT?
HDIF about heights?
Do I use alcohol, caffeine, or nicotine? If so, for what? HDIFAMA?
He is Risen! How does this make me feel?
HDIF about your emotions / feelings last night?
HDIF when we are with couples who are working on their marriages?
Is my life organized, under-organized, or over-organized? HDIFAT?
What nice thing have I noticed about you this week and have not told you? HDIFAT?
What do I think about my ability to accept your loving me? HDIFAMA?
How well do I accept criticism from my people? HDIFAT?
Do I/we seek support when I/we are struggling? HDIFFAMA?
Lately, how have I responded to my people's demands of me? HDIFAMA?
What is the closest I have ever come to dying? HDIFAT?
HDIF about spending time with your family?
How would I feel going to a school football game and sitting near the band? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we disagree in front of others?
HDIF on those occasions when I think you deserve private time?
Our children most need _____. HDIFAT?
How do I think we got together? Accident, Fate or God? HDIFAMA?
Lately, have I accepted peoples feelings, merely tolerated them, or rejected them? HDIFAMA?
How have you helped me be a better person? HDIFAT?
HDIF about honoring the dead?
In which direction are we heading? HDMAMMF?
HDIF when I realize that God is speaking to me through you?
What is my biggest challenge right now? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I share a new recipe with you?
What miracle, small or large, did I experience today? HDIFAT?
What dreams do I have for our next year? HDIFAT?
Describe a time when I felt abused. HDIFAT?
HDIF about our current financial situation?
How has your writing a dialogue letter to me, each time you do, affected our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF about getting other people?s advice for solving our problems?
God does not make junk. HDIFAT?
HDIF about trying to live a simple and more fulfilling life?
What are my attitudes about our sex life?
How do I feel when an old friend of yours/mine comes into town and wants to spend some time with you/me? Describe in loving detail.
Do I experience stress as a positive or a negative? DYFID.
Star bright nights stir emotions / feelings in me of _____. HDIFAT?
How did you meet your spouse or significant other? HDIFAT?
What song reminds me of our relationship right now? HDIFTYT?
What hinders me from talking about money with you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am singing in the shower?
If I could bring faith and God to one person, who would it be? HDIFAT?
HDIF knowing that you love me for a lifetime?
How can you help me recognize my good qualities? HDIFAT?
What do I value most about our lifestyle? HDIFAT?
What is it about our charism of parenthood that calls other people? HDIFAT?
At what times do I feel closest to God? HDIFAT?
Does our lovemaking extend beyond the bedroom? HDIFAT?
HDIF about the role God played in my vows?
What is my primary motivation to succeed? HDIFAT?
What was my wedding night like? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I wipe away your tears?
HDIF when I am watching you and you do not know it?
What happens to me when we are not accepting of each other? HDIFAT?
What kinds of compliments have I received most often as an adult? HDIFAT?
If I had three wishes, I would wish for _____. HDIFAT?
How do I see God reflected through my people? HDIFAMA?
What is your best quality? HDIFAT?
How do I see myself handling my responsibilities for our family finances? HDIFAT?
What couple has been the clearest sign of Sacrament for me? HDIFAT?
What emotion / feeling does Jesus' death on the cross stir in me? HDIFAT?
What good thing happened to me today? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I confront you with a conflict between us?
How well do I accept criticism from you? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you compliment me in a way that affirms my femininity / masculinity?
What advise would I give a young bride or groom (pick one)? How do I feel about this?
What can I do to help me understand you better? HDIFAT?
I am supposed to help you recognize your good qualities. HDIFAT?
HDIF when we walk the dog together?
What changes in my relationship with my people have I taken for granted? HDIFAT?
How have I let myself down? HDIFAT?
HDIF knowing that we will always have to work for real closeness in our relationship?
Can I see God in myself? HDIFAT?
When others misjudge me, I feel... DILD.
HDIF when we are not in synch?
What is my dream for my priesthood or ministry? HDIFAT?
Do I try to fix your problems, or just listen and accept how you feel about them? HDIFAMA?
How do I behave when I fail? HDIFAT?
HDIF about you staying home with the children and being a homemaker?
HDIF when your parents come for dinner?
How do I feel when someone I don't know well offers me advice? DILD.
The last time you made me feel pampered was _____. HDIFAT?
What stage of love do I think we are in (Romance, Disillusion, Misery, Joy)? HDIFAMA?
This week, how have I been judgmental of others? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I want to invite a couple to experience the weekend but you do not?
How do I feel about being missionary a for God? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF about sharing work with someone who has lower standards?
HDIF when I make you happy?
What makes me feel holy? HDIFAT?
HDIF when spring is approaching?
HDIF giving our time to help other people?
HDIF when I forgive an enemy?
HDIF when I consider that you can / cannot do CPR?
How have my values and lifestyle changed over the years? HDIFAT?
What do I like best about you in the area of child raising? HDIFAT?
Can I always find reasons to laugh? HDIFAT?
HDIF about experimenting in our sexual relationship?
HDIF when you shower me with attention?
How do I feel when I have to do most of the work for a ministry project? Describe in loving detail.
HDIF being responsible for my own needs?
When have I felt alone this winter? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I hear you say something complimentary about me?
How would I feel working under someone who is always fair but not so kind? HDIFAT?
HDIF when we argue because we remember things differently?
HDIF about having a drink with friends?
What promises did I make to you on our Encounter / Retrouvaille weekend? How well have I kept those promises? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you use your dialogue letter to get some point across to me?
HDIF about the little things you do for me?
What do I think our dialogue did for us as we experienced the weekend? During follow-up? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you excel at something I thought I was rather good at?
When you say no to me in sex, I feel _____.
Was my parent's relationship a healthy or unhealthy model for us? HDIFAT?
Under stress, I feel _____ and I tend to _____. HDIFAT?
What is the area I least want to discuss with you? HDIFAT?
What expectations do I have of my/your job? Are they being met? HDIFAMA?
When did I feel closest to you today? HDIFAT?
What is one of the happiest times I remember spending with you lately? HDIFAT?
HDIF about trying to make something beautiful with my hands?
What kind of an example am I when I fail? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I am too tense to sleep?
HDIF showing affection in front of our children?
HDIF when plans do not work out?
What areas do I most like to dialogue about? HDIFAT?
What do I do when I am faced with a problem I cannot resolve? HDIFAT?
How does my/our relationship with my/your parents affect us? HDIFAT? (You may want to pick one set of parents the first night, and the other the following night.)
How much control would I have to give up to make things better for us? HDIFAT?
Do I consider myself an introvert or extrovert? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you tell me, We'll see, and I think you really mean, No?
Do I see our sexual relationship as an expression of our total relationship? HDTMMF?
Is the money mine, ours, or yours? HDIFAT?
HDIF when you treat me with tenderness?
What emotion / feeling do I find most difficult to reveal to you? HDIFAT?
Do I build a wall between myself and others because I am afraid of being hurt? HDIFAT?
HDIF when I hold you as you cry yourself to sleep?
How do we lovingly pass on our family traditions? HDIFAT?
HDIF about planning a family budget with you?
How do your insecurities affect me? HDMAMMF?
HDIF when I clean out the car?
What am I doing to bring joy to our relationship? HDIFAT?
HDIF about my relationship with your parents?
Lately, my biggest disappointment has been... HDIF about this (besides disappointed)?
HDIF dealing with imaginative people versus dealing with realistic people?
Do I believe white lies are all right? HDIFAT?
What is the biggest challenge facing us this week? What can I do to help you through it? HDIFAMA?
When you feel threatened, I feel... DILD.
HDIF knowing that we will always have to work for real closeness in our relationship?
When have I experienced your acceptance of me this week? What are my feelings about this?
What do I expect from you? HDIFAT?
In what area do I most need your help in living as a sacramental couple? HDIF sharing this with you?
HDIF when I introduce you to people at work?
How do I feel when I try something different in my sermon/homily/prayer/etc. Describe in loving detail.
What mask (personality style) do I wear in the area of child raising? HDIFAT?
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