HDIFAMA & Other Acronyms
HDIFAMA, DILD, HDIFAT...
These are simply common acronyms meant to explain how to answer the question, and often we just speak them like words. Someone may say out loud “Hidifama.” So here is a handy list of what all of these actually mean.
|DTF||Describe This Feeling|
|DFILD||Describe Feelings In Loving Detail|
|DILD||Describe In Loving Detail|
|HDIFAMA||Hoiw Do I Feel About My Answer?|
|HDTF||How Does This Feel?|
|HDIF||How Do I Feel?|
|HDIFA||How Do I Feel About...|
|HDIFAT||How Do I Feel About That?|
|HDIFST||How Do I Feel Sharing This?|
|HDIFSTWY||How Do I Feel Sharing This With You?|
|HDIFTTTY||How Do I Feel Telling This To You?|
|WAMF||What Are My Feelings?|
|WAMFA||What Are My Feelings About...|
|WAMFAT||What Are My Feelings About That?|
|WAMFAMA||What Are My Feelings About My Answer?|
OK, now Say it Out Loud: WAMFAMA!
You may be wondering how this actually relates to the dialogue question. It may seem counter-intuitive, but the majority of your dialogue letter is usually going to be writing the answer to one of these acronyms, and not as much on the question.
Take this question for example:
What is my most prized possession? HDIFSTWY?
This question is not so much about what my most prized possession is. It is more about how I feel sharing this information with you.
So A letter may start out like this:
My most prized possession is my car. I feel guilty sharing this with you. As a physical sensation, my guilty feeling is… and so on.
You see, it is not about the possession. It is about how I feel sharing this with you. I may feel guilty telling you this for all sort of reasons. Or I may feel excited. Whatever it is, the closeness between you deepens when you share about how this affects you and your spouse as a couple, not the item or issue itself.