Communication Problems in Marriage

Communication is a skill - and it can be learned. If every conversation turns into an argument, there's hope.

Does This Sound Familiar?

Every conversation turns into an argument. You say one thing, they hear something completely different. You've stopped talking about anything meaningful because it always ends badly. Sometimes it feels like you're speaking different languages - and maybe you are.

Recognizing the Patterns

• The Silent Treatment - One or both of you shut down, withdraw, and stop talking altogether. Days can pass in cold silence.
• The Endless Loop - You have the same arguments over and over, never reaching resolution, just exhaustion.
• The Defense Mode - Everything feels like an attack. You can't share a feeling without your spouse getting defensive, and vice versa.
• Surface Talk Only - You talk about schedules, kids, and logistics - but never about feelings, hopes, or what really matters.

If you're nodding along, you're not alone.

Why Communication Is So Hard

Here's the truth: nobody taught you how to communicate in marriage. You learned to read, write, do math - but healthy relationship communication? That's assumed to come naturally.

It doesn't. Communication is a skill, and like any skill, it needs to be learned and practiced. The good news? It's never too late to learn.

What You'll Learn at Retrouvaille

• The Dialogue Technique - A specific, structured way to share feelings and truly hear each other - without arguments escalating.
• Deep Listening - How to listen to understand, not just to respond or defend yourself.
• Expressing Feelings - How to share what you're really feeling without blame, criticism, or attack.

This Really Works

Couples who attend Retrouvaille often say:

• "We finally understand each other."
• "We can talk about hard things without it turning into a fight."
• "I feel heard for the first time in years."

The techniques taught at Retrouvaille have been refined over nearly 50 years and have helped thousands of couples break through communication barriers.