Living Like Roommates?

The spark isn't gone - it just needs to be rekindled. If you feel more like roommates than partners, you're not alone.

Does This Sound Like Your Marriage?

You share a home, maybe even a bed, but you feel like strangers. Conversations are about logistics - who's picking up the kids, what's for dinner, when the bills are due. The emotional intimacy has faded. You can't remember the last time you really connected.

You're co-existing, not truly together.

Signs You've Become Roommates

• You only talk about practical matters, not feelings or dreams
• Physical affection has become rare or awkward
• You spend more time on screens than with each other
• You feel lonely even when you're together
• You've stopped making plans together
• You wonder "Is this all there is?"

If you're nodding along, you're not alone - and more importantly, this doesn't have to be permanent.

How Did This Happen?

It rarely happens overnight. Life gets busy - work, kids, responsibilities pile up. You start putting your relationship on the back burner, assuming it will always be there. Small disconnections add up. Before you know it, years have passed and you've drifted apart.

The good news: If the drift was gradual, so can the reconnection be. But it takes intentional effort - and the right tools.

Why Retrouvaille Works for "Roommate" Marriages

• Dedicated time - A full weekend focused solely on your relationship - no distractions, no kids, no work. Just the two of you.
• Deep conversations - The Dialogue technique helps you move past surface talk into real, meaningful communication about feelings.
• See each other again - Rediscover the person you married - their fears, dreams, and needs that have gone unexpressed.
• Rekindle intimacy - Emotional connection naturally leads to renewed closeness. Many couples find their intimacy returns as they reconnect emotionally.

Don't Wait for a Crisis

Many couples wait until there's an affair, a major fight, or divorce papers before seeking help. But the "roommate" stage is a warning sign. Emotional distance can lead to vulnerability - to affairs, to resentment, to giving up entirely.

Acting now, before things get worse, gives you the best chance of not just saving your marriage, but truly transforming it into something better than it's ever been.